As your family grows older, and your children become teenagers, they’ll need assistance in goal-setting. It’s almost natural that the ideas of your youth will enter your adult life – they’re part of who you are. The challenge is figuring out what kind of guidance to give your next wave of offspring. Here are some family examples:
Be Specific –
Your childhood goals will probably be different from those of your children. In fact, you’ll probably have very different goals for teen-age children than you did as a teenager. This is because your teenage years are a period of rapid development, and you’ll learn new skills and develop new interests along the way. For example, you probably weren’t thinking about career goals when you were young. You’ll have to think about what you want to do as adults, how to get there, and how to balance the various aspects of your life that are involved.
Help Others –
If you set up a family room, it may be where your kids watch television, do homework, or engage in other activities. Don’t leave the television on, but make sure they know where they can go if they need help. If you have a computer at home, you could even set up a system for managing homework. This lets them know their assignments in advance and gives them a chance to look over their assignments before class. If they don’t put the work in, you’ll hear about it, and you can help them set aside time to complete it.
Have Support –
Ask your children what they need help doing and set up opportunities for them to get help. For example, maybe they need to read a chapter, or brush up on math skills. Find computer games that they can play with you, and set aside time to play. The kids can work on their assignments, and you can read the chapter or book. This has the benefit of reinforcing the lesson – and it gets them doing something that will benefit you.
Have a Firm Commitment –
When you start setting out to achieve these goals for the family, you might be in over your head. It’s not a good idea to just ask the family to pull together. You’ll likely find that things quickly get out of hand, and you’ll need to step in to help refocus the effort. Establish a firm commitment to the project, one that each member can live up to.
Keep It Simple –
A smart goal is one that get the family together and then works within the structure of the family. Sometimes families need extra guidance, and goals that are too complicated can distract from this. So don’t set yourself up for failure by setting goals that are too big. Stick to the basics, and then expand as the family needs it.
Get Everyone on Board –
Setting goals can be a group effort. Ask your family to pitch in with what you are trying to accomplish, and don’t be shy about requesting input from each person. It will make all the difference in the success of your goal. Just be honest with everyone involved about the real details, so that everyone has a clear understanding of what is expected of them.
In summary, smart goals need to be simple and attainable. They need to be realistic, and they need to have a strong commitment from each family member. It’s important to understand that everyone in your family should have a positive opinion about the completion of the goal. If you’re smart enough to come up with smart goals, and keep them in the family, you’ll achieve more than you ever thought possible.